Being in a relationship is hard to be honest.  Even more truthful is the fact that anything worth having is worth fighting for.  The problem is, we often committ ourselves to the wrong type of fight.

Arguments happen in relationships because you have two individuals with two different point of views on life, they have had totally different experiences, so their opinions on various things differ.  Those are actually healthy arguments to me.  Because those are the rumblings that must happen for two people to grow together and come on one accord and become single minded.

The unhealthy arguments usually involve some type of trust breaking act.  Such as a lie or some sort of infidelity.  One person is trying to justify their bad action while the other person is reaching for correction.  Very unhealthy because those lead to distance and seperation.  Two will struggle to become one.

I’m sitting here right now thinking about this because I remember how I used to say that, “If I have to fight you to be with you, then I don’t want to be with you at all.”  THAT was a very immature thought process I assure you.  Allow me to explain.

We have to understand that, sometimes, in order to show someone we love them, we DO have to fight them.  To fight through their ego, their stubbornness, and other factors.  In the same manner, we have to fight ourselves just so we can love them.  Letting go of self to be selfless and willing to look out for them.  Or dropping our ego just to do something as simple as letting go of our own wants just so we can fulfill the needs of the relationship.

Loving someone, and being loved, is at times a gamble.  But it’s a gamble that we can win in the door.  As long as we’re willing to put in the good and healthy fights.